Crazy Exes Part 1
And How To Avoid Having One ….
The micromanaging girlfriend who tried to dominate every aspect of your life; the perpetual lying boyfriend who had his side chicks come out of the woodworks; the crazy ex who just wouldn’t let go forcing you to get a restraining order…. Ok, so the last one was extreme but why do we find people we fall madly in love with but by the end of the end of the relationship we want to escape and go to another planet?
Fortunately I’ve never had a crazy ex…. No seriously… but I’ve seen too many of my friends go through many crazies. Look, I’m going to keep this simple – the key to staying away from crazy people is to stay awake and alert. People usually try to come with their A game in the beginning but after a while it’s going to be hard to keep it up if it’s not real. You can only pretend for so long. If you’re awake and alert you will see warning signs. No one is perfect, if you are looking for perfection being in a relationship is not something you should have on the to-do list.
The type of areas you want to look out for are :
- Friends and family – who and how are they? (In part two I’ll address Crazy Exes and their family members)
- Who do they spend most of their time with? What do they do in their spare time?
- What’s their work ethic?
- How do you feel when you’re around them?
- Do their words match up with their actions?
- Are they able to self-reflect and truly take responsibility for their behaviors?
These questions help formulate who they are as a person. Therefore the next time you come across someone who doesn’t quite seem right – please run as fast and far as you can!