Unlikely Besties – A tale of an INFJ and ESTJ Friendship
I remember when I met one of my best friends a while back in undergrad; I was a new RA scoping out my future room when an existing RA greeted me – I was taking over her old room. That’s where our friendship began and thankfully, has continued to this day.
Whereas an INFJ and an ESTJ would not do very well in a romantic relationship, platonic relationships can be very different. It’s not your imaginative, creative, screen-writing drama between these two but a solid connection of logic combined with intense passion.
Most days she’s a pretty strong one; others she’s more moderate but at the end of the day she will admit to being an ESTJ without fail.
A few amazing characteristics of this personality type is that they are very reliable, honest, and consistent which is a great stronghold for the anxious-prone INFJ. I know that I can count on her and she will do what she says. Likewise she is always saying how thankful she is to have me in her life (insert confused face here lol) and if I were gone there would be no replacement.
As an INFJ she endures my rants ranging from why aren’t there enough good Samaritans in the world, when will people be treated equally, and my latest plan such as inventing an edible chocolate bag so that I’ll never be without chocolate. (Completely joking, that’s a TERRIBLE idea!)
In all seriousness we are an unlikely close friendship because of the differences we hold. There’s no way we would work if it was a romantic relationship. We also joke with each other that if we had a child who was each other’s type we would send them to live with the other person. Thankfully we haven’t had to do that…. Yet… lol. Teasing, of course. It would be challenging to have a child who is radically different from you but with proper information it is possible to have a good relationship.
I think it’s safe to say that we could not have an abundance of each other’s types in our lives as close friends because of the strong characteristics each personality carries. It works well for us because we value each other’s strengths and strive to work on personal growth in the areas we need to improve. And as I conclude this article I can’t wait to share it with her! She’s one of my top encouragers!
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