Thinker Vs. Feeler
The Four inner Preferences – Sensors vs. Intuitors, and Thinkers vs. Feelers can have a tremendous amount of conflict. Although this seems pretty straightforward, when we dig deeper we’ll see some overlooked characteristics. Even if someone is predominantly a thinker type it does not mean by default they are callous or cold-hearted. There are many thinker types with a feeling side or they have learned how to pay attention to their personal emotions or the emotions of others.
Some thinking types do not enjoy dealing with their emotions yet they can be highly moody – and they don’t realize it. Instead of recognizing their emotions and being able to process them they may ignore their feelings and act as though there’s nothing wrong; as a result they may come across as being moody. It’s pretty amusing when they change moods all of a sudden and act as though everything is fine. Actually, it’s not amusing at all.
On the flip side feelers typically get a bad name for being emotional beings. They also have a thinking side, it’s not like they can’t make logical decisions or think clearly because they are predominantly feelers. It is true that feeler types are comfortable with emotions but it doesn’t automatically mean they know how to manage them well. Ironically thinkers and feelers and have that in common despite being opposite preferences.
Thinkers make decisions based upon what they believe is logical; they dislike decisions according to how one feels instead of only looking at logic and facts. This is different from the sensory functioning because whereas sensors rely on facts, thinkers do not believe decisions should be influenced by feelings. Sensor-feelers may think about what is “right” but usually the heart leads with decision-making.
In a relationship, these two opposing dichotomies will have their fair share of conflict. Generally speaking, the higher the thinker dichotomy in a relationship, the more stress it will cause for the feeler-type. The thinker in the relationship tends to zone out and does not really address the problem. In order for arguments to be solved, it takes a lot of dedication to each other and constant communication. I personally do not recommend couples to get into a relationship if each person is high on the opposing end of the spectrum.