What’s Your Ideal Love Match?
The Myers-Briggs traditionally matches personalities with the opposing outer letters. For example, if you are an ISFJ, then you are paired with an “E–P” type personality. This works well when each person understands their differences and approaches the relationship with maturity. Whereas I think this would work, depending on the personality, I don’t believe it’s a good idea to always match personalities with the opposing outer dichotomies. It was originally meant to be “complimentary”; however, I repeatedly hear how one person in the relationship is fed-up and can’t take it anymore. If both parties are frustrated due to personality differences and are having a hard time working towards a middle ground, that’s a lot of extra work! Why deal with additional stress when you can recognize these traits before you get into a relationship? If both partners are respectful of each other’s differences, it significantly reduces the stress and tension.
Instead of having a blanketed “ideal match” I think it’s extremely important to take several things into consideration. This includes the strengths of all the dichotomies, beliefs/worldview, if a person has not worked through trauma or has a personality disorder (not to be confused with the natural personality type of a person), and/or another mental health-related issue that has not been addressed. Culture can be a huge influence on how a person deals with their personality traits and life values; in addition to the relationships they’ve observed in their personal environment.
To learn more about love matches and a greater “ideal” match click on your personality type below: